As a relationship psuchotherapist, one of the questions I ask is what makes some couples in modern long-term romantic relationships enjoy a satisfying sex life whilst others lose their desire and stop expressing themselves sexually?
What is it that those who remain sexually intimate do differently?
One of my hypotheses is that couples who understand that sex and lovemaking are not something you ask for but a place you invite others to join in, enjoy a more satisfying and richer sex life for longer. I think of this invitation as seduction, an attitude that can be exciting and arousing desire.
The purpose of this survey to examine the correlation (high or low) between different behaviours and sexual satisfaction and consider what the overall pattern reveals. If the correlation is high, it may suggest that cultivating these behaviours can lead to a richer sexual expression in the relationship.
Thank you to all the people who took their time to participate in the survey – it is now closed (1 July 2023).
I am analysing the data and will publish the results in the coming months.
Regardless of your answers, I believe there are two valuable takeaways from the survey, the first is that keeping passion and romance alive requires investment, care and attention and the second is that there is no one way to have a sexually active relationship – you can chart your own course.